Category: Parenting
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Betrayal trauma
I heard a story from my therapist once about betrayal. It was something her Professor and mentor had shared with her as she was studying for her masters to become a therapist. He relayed a story about a couple that had come to him for marraige counceling. They had been married for many decades. The…
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The gift of not being “chosen” in relationship
As a child, most of you more than likely experienced not being chosen. The politics of the playground can be cruel. Being chosen anything but first for a team feels deflating, at least it did for me, as I suspect it did for a lot of you. But it is inevitable for most. Even Michael…
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Parents and Superheroes
When I was growing up, the first superhero I saw on TV was George Reeves’ Superman. I was totally enthralled. He could leap buildings and outrun a bullet. No matter what the crisis was, he was able to easily overcome. More super heroes showed up on TV soon after. Spiderman, Hulk, Aquaman, Ultraman, Batman. What…
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Anxiety<->Abandonment, a revelation
Meet my friend N. She is in her 40s. She is married with two children. She is a trailblazer in work and in life. She values her family with ferocity and love. She was raised by two parents who are still together. They provided an amazing, loving, safe space in which to grow up. They…
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Where’d You Go, Bernadette
The title of this post is a reference to the wonderful novel by Maria Semple, and is a tribute to my mother, Bernadette, who passed away February 2nd, 2022. She was 77. I was born as her first son, from a coupling of two Roman Catholic parents each playing a role that was, like for…
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366
366 days. We have witnessed them get up and stagger and then walk. We have all felt some portion of their unbelievable pain. Although not all, that is unfathomable. The idea of courage means so many different things to different people. For us, today, we are thinking of Ethan. Ethan Miles was extraordinary in the…